A few years ago, I ran across some bananas on sale for like 2 cents USD each, and bought loads of them and made a lot of banana bread with them. I gave ziploc bags of banana bread muffins to JP's mom, and to friends at church. I also gave a pyrex baking dish with banana bread in it to a neighbor. About a week later, the neighbor knocked on my door to return my dish, and it had homemade cookies in it! I told JP later, "Guess what! When Vivian returned my dish, she put all these cookies in it for us!" JP looked at me strange, and said, "Of course!" I was confused. He explained to me that if someone gives you a non-disposable dish of food, you need to return it with food in it! (Glad he told me that before anyone ever gave us a returnable dish of food!) So now, when giving baked goods to friends, I kind of hesitate to give them something in a dish that I need back - I don't want to obligate them to give me something in return! A couple months ago I gave our next-door neighbors a plate of cookies, and they returned my plate with a glass bowl of homemade caramel corn (because you can't easily put caramel corn on a plate!) So I gave their bowl back with some brownies in it. Then last week I gave them a plate with banana muffins on it, and the neighbor told me yesterday that she will give my plate back soon, that she hasn't had time to make anything yet. I felt terrible, and told her she's not obligated to put anything on my plate for us, and she was confused as to why I thought she might give my plate back empty. I hope she didn't think I don't want her baked goods, or am in a hurry to get my plate back...
If you go to dinner at someone's home, and they ask you to bring a salad, dessert, etc. (which is common, because upon being invited you should ask what you can bring!), you leave the leftovers and your dish at the host's home, unless all the food you brought was eaten, then you can take your dish home. The hostess may prepare and "itacate" (see post below), and send you with your dish immediately, or she may not return your dish for sometime.
When JP and I were in the US, it was soon our turn to bring dessert to our small group. I made a cobbler and brought a tub of ice cream. When the group was over and we were getting ready to leave, the hostess handed me the almost empty cobbler dish and the half-eaten tub of ice cream. JP and I insisted that she keep both things, while she said that she didn't want to have ice cream in the house because she'd have to give some to her boys, and may not remember to bring my dish back. Then I remembered that in the US, you take whatever is left of what you brought with you! JP felt bad that we ended up taking the food home, but we both had to tell ourselves that we did the right thing for US culture!
Living in two cultures keeps us on our toes!
Saturday, July 26, 2014
Tuesday, July 22, 2014
The Itacate (ee-tah-KAH-tay)
The great thing that happens in Mexico when you go to a large meal at someone else's home. The doggie bag.
If you're invited to someone's home for a meal and there are a lot of leftovers, the hostess may prepare an ITACATE for everyone to take home with them. This generally consists of a few disposable containers full of several dishes that were served that day (and sometimes some other random thing from the hostess' fridge, or at least that's what happens to us when we go to JP's grandma's house!)
A good Mexican wife must have her stash of these in the house for preparing itacates:
Yogurt and sour cream containers, any type of disposable, yet reusable dish is great for sending guests home with salads, rice, meat dishes, desserts, or whatever was served at your home. The guest gets another meal out of it, the hostess doesn't have loads of food clogging up her fridge, and the guest doesn't need to bring the dish back! This is win-win in my book! :)
If you're invited to someone's home for a meal and there are a lot of leftovers, the hostess may prepare an ITACATE for everyone to take home with them. This generally consists of a few disposable containers full of several dishes that were served that day (and sometimes some other random thing from the hostess' fridge, or at least that's what happens to us when we go to JP's grandma's house!)
A good Mexican wife must have her stash of these in the house for preparing itacates:
Thursday, July 10, 2014
A Growing City
This is (my) translation of an article about Queretaro that came from this site
-- Explanations in italics are mine --
In light of the upcoming World Population Day on July 11, the INEGI (-- Mexican Census bureau --) revealed a few statistics about Queretaro's population.
There are around 1,974,000 people residing in Queretaro, which makes it the 22nd largest metro area in the country. In just 50 years, Queretaro has QUINTUPLED its population, going from 286,000 people in 1950 to 1.4 million in 2000. This year, it is estimated that the city will reach 1.97 million people.
On the other hand, the fertility rate has gone down, going from 3.5 in 1990 to 2.3 in 2010, and it keeps going down. It is also said that the life expectancy is the highest in the country, with the average being 78 years.
-- Explanations in italics are mine --
In light of the upcoming World Population Day on July 11, the INEGI (-- Mexican Census bureau --) revealed a few statistics about Queretaro's population.
There are around 1,974,000 people residing in Queretaro, which makes it the 22nd largest metro area in the country. In just 50 years, Queretaro has QUINTUPLED its population, going from 286,000 people in 1950 to 1.4 million in 2000. This year, it is estimated that the city will reach 1.97 million people.
On the other hand, the fertility rate has gone down, going from 3.5 in 1990 to 2.3 in 2010, and it keeps going down. It is also said that the life expectancy is the highest in the country, with the average being 78 years.
Another effect of the changing demographic is the increase in the proportion of adults (30 to 59 years old) and senior citizens (60 years and older). These two age groups now represent 53.1 percent of the population, all of whom are eligible for health and social services. It is expected that these age groups continue to be the majority through 2030.
-- In most other cities in Mexico, the younger age groups - under 30 years old - tend to be the vast majority, sometimes being as high as 75% of the population --
Finally, one other aspect that is important to mention is that the rate of marriages as gone down in our city in the last decades, going from 7.1 marriages per 1,000 people in 1993 to 4.5 marriages per 1,000 people in 2010. The divorce rate has been increasing.
Saturday, June 28, 2014
Taco Juan
**(Due to the fact that this is not our personal story, we've changed some names)**
We may have mentioned Juan before, he's the owner of our favorite taco restaurant the Rancho. He's been coming to our church since sometime before JP and I returned from the USA last year.
The other night, we went to the Rancho with some friends after JP preached at their church. In a rare moment of non-busyness in the restaurant, Juan told us his story.
Our good friends, Luis and Sandy, had been going to the Rancho for some time when they invited JP and I (who, at the time, were engaged - circa 2008). We immediately recognized the world's best taco upon eating there, and have been regular customers ever since. Luis and Sandy had shared a bit with Juan about salvation in Christ. He was interested in spirituality and was open to hearing what they had to say. JP and I also talked a little with him about Christ.
Juan has a sister who lives in Canada, and she accepted Christ. Because her town doesn't have a church service in Spanish, she looked for sermons online and found a Mexican church that offered live-streamed services every Sunday, so she began to tune in regularly. Juan went to visit his sister in Canada, and she also told him about Christ, and encouraged him to attend a Christian church.
In 2011, our church, Horizonte Queretaro, got a new pastor. He and his wife moved up from another city, and we took them to the Rancho. They were hooked, and went frequently. They, too, began sharing with Juan about salvation in Christ.
One day, Juan's sister came to Queretaro to visit. She was in the restaurant talking with him about attending the church she tuned into online, which happened to be here in Queretaro, when suddenly that pastor walked into the Rancho! It was Kike (KEE-kay), the pastor of Horizonte Queretaro, who was by that time a friend of Juan's. Juan found all this to be too much of a "coincidence," and decided to go to church. He began attending Horizonte regularly, then accepted Christ! He now uses his restaurant as a way to point others to Christ as much as possible.
We had heard bits and pieces of Juan's story, but it was amazing to hear him tell how God orchestrated everything to bring him to where he is today!
(Just a side note: since me and another girl listening that night are from the United States, Juan piped up that he had spent some time in the US too. "But it's in a place where hardly anyone from here (Queretaro) knows of - Portland Oregon." Couldn't be closer to home for JP and I. Literally!)
We may have mentioned Juan before, he's the owner of our favorite taco restaurant the Rancho. He's been coming to our church since sometime before JP and I returned from the USA last year.
The other night, we went to the Rancho with some friends after JP preached at their church. In a rare moment of non-busyness in the restaurant, Juan told us his story.
Our good friends, Luis and Sandy, had been going to the Rancho for some time when they invited JP and I (who, at the time, were engaged - circa 2008). We immediately recognized the world's best taco upon eating there, and have been regular customers ever since. Luis and Sandy had shared a bit with Juan about salvation in Christ. He was interested in spirituality and was open to hearing what they had to say. JP and I also talked a little with him about Christ.
Juan has a sister who lives in Canada, and she accepted Christ. Because her town doesn't have a church service in Spanish, she looked for sermons online and found a Mexican church that offered live-streamed services every Sunday, so she began to tune in regularly. Juan went to visit his sister in Canada, and she also told him about Christ, and encouraged him to attend a Christian church.
In 2011, our church, Horizonte Queretaro, got a new pastor. He and his wife moved up from another city, and we took them to the Rancho. They were hooked, and went frequently. They, too, began sharing with Juan about salvation in Christ.
One day, Juan's sister came to Queretaro to visit. She was in the restaurant talking with him about attending the church she tuned into online, which happened to be here in Queretaro, when suddenly that pastor walked into the Rancho! It was Kike (KEE-kay), the pastor of Horizonte Queretaro, who was by that time a friend of Juan's. Juan found all this to be too much of a "coincidence," and decided to go to church. He began attending Horizonte regularly, then accepted Christ! He now uses his restaurant as a way to point others to Christ as much as possible.
We had heard bits and pieces of Juan's story, but it was amazing to hear him tell how God orchestrated everything to bring him to where he is today!
(Just a side note: since me and another girl listening that night are from the United States, Juan piped up that he had spent some time in the US too. "But it's in a place where hardly anyone from here (Queretaro) knows of - Portland Oregon." Couldn't be closer to home for JP and I. Literally!)
JP going after the "trompo" of BBQ pork at the Rancho
My FAVORITE dish, BBQ pork and cheese taco
Thursday, June 26, 2014
Every Four Years...
Every four years, this exciting time comes around in Mexico. (No, it's not presidential elections). It's THE WORLD CUP!!
The vast majority of the world sits in front of TV screens at home, in restaurants, in parks, etc. to cheer on their country's soccer team, or their favorite team if their country didn't go. Events are rescheduled, school (and sometimes work) is skipped. (Imagine if the Super Bowl happened once a week for a month, and wasn't necessarily on Sunday evening.) Mexico is VERY enthusiastic about this event, and so are JP and I, even though we haven't been into regular season Mexican League soccer in the past few years.
Each country that goes to the World Cup is guaranteed three games. Mexico and the US have both played their three, and will each get at least one more. We're rooting for both of our countries, as well as Costa Rica (doing VERY well, and is also moving forward) and Honduras (unfortunately did not move forward).
Here's just a little of the excitement!
The vast majority of the world sits in front of TV screens at home, in restaurants, in parks, etc. to cheer on their country's soccer team, or their favorite team if their country didn't go. Events are rescheduled, school (and sometimes work) is skipped. (Imagine if the Super Bowl happened once a week for a month, and wasn't necessarily on Sunday evening.) Mexico is VERY enthusiastic about this event, and so are JP and I, even though we haven't been into regular season Mexican League soccer in the past few years.
Each country that goes to the World Cup is guaranteed three games. Mexico and the US have both played their three, and will each get at least one more. We're rooting for both of our countries, as well as Costa Rica (doing VERY well, and is also moving forward) and Honduras (unfortunately did not move forward).
Here's just a little of the excitement!
We went to a park in downtown Queretaro to watch one Mexico game.
Cheering on Honduras and USA, watching games by internet
We watched another Mexico game with friends at a cafe
Monday, May 19, 2014
Found In Translation
A new ministry was kind of dropped in our laps a couple of months ago - one that was unexpected (and I *may* of actually said "Um, yeah, that's not happening" upon being asked to do it).
At Horizonte Church, we had quite a few foreigners for some time now - three ladies from the US, two guys from Germany, an Australian guy, a Costa Rican girl, and an Argentine guy all fairly involved in church, serving and attending regularly. We all speak Spanish at least conversationally. Then all of a sudden, a few foreign families who work in a new car industry in the area began coming. Most of them do not speak much Spanish. The end of February I was asked to translate the service simultaneously for one such family. Now, you have to understand, there's simultaneous translation for a church service, then there's simultaneous translation for OUR church services - our pastor speaks incredibly fast, and uses an insane amount of slang and plays on words. So this was a huge challenge. JP started doing the translation, as my hearing isn't what it should be, and he does a great job. I'm not sure if word was spread about the translation of our 11:00 service, or what, but we now have two people from the US, two Bulgarians, and four from Africa coming on a regular basis. It's so neat to see how God brought people who don't yet speak Spanish to be able to hear His Word preached here in Queretaro. As I said before, the translating is not easy. But it's been a blessing to be a part of this!
In the picture below:
The top part, JP is translating the service.
The bottom part, Pearlie (one of the USA girls) is translating children's Sunday School.
Thursday, March 20, 2014
Monday, February 10, 2014
Coffee Time!
JP and I had the opportunity to help out at RenovArte Cafe - the ministry place of our friends Phil and Sandy - for six weeks while they were in Australia visiting family. If you didn't know from previous posts, RenovArte exists, not only to provide great coffee and treats to local college students, but mainly to build relationships with them and share about a relationship with Christ.
JP was in charge of finances and buying product for the cafe during six weeks. This was way more time-consuming than we had imagined, but it was a really great experience! Apart from our main ministry activities, at least one of us was at RenovArte each day for a couple hours to make sure all necessary items were in stock, and sometimes to help take orders and serve the things that we know how to make, like sandwiches. I (Jessica) also got involved in the English conversation group for a group of business men and women that Phil started. I am happy to be able to continue this even though Phil and Sandy are back from their first trip to Australia in over three years! (Phil is Australian and his family lives there). They returned the end of January, and we are now back to "normal" ministry activities. But we love to drop in and have a good coffee at RenovArte, or take someone who we are sharing Christ with for a good atmosphere to chat.
JP was in charge of finances and buying product for the cafe during six weeks. This was way more time-consuming than we had imagined, but it was a really great experience! Apart from our main ministry activities, at least one of us was at RenovArte each day for a couple hours to make sure all necessary items were in stock, and sometimes to help take orders and serve the things that we know how to make, like sandwiches. I (Jessica) also got involved in the English conversation group for a group of business men and women that Phil started. I am happy to be able to continue this even though Phil and Sandy are back from their first trip to Australia in over three years! (Phil is Australian and his family lives there). They returned the end of January, and we are now back to "normal" ministry activities. But we love to drop in and have a good coffee at RenovArte, or take someone who we are sharing Christ with for a good atmosphere to chat.
Me with some of the cool staff at RenovArte!
Friday, January 10, 2014
Christmas and New Year!
We spent Christmas in Queretaro this year, enjoying both Mexican and United States Christmas traditions!
Above, we are at the annual Queretaro Bible story parade, getting our favorite goodies from the food booths!
Below, watching "A Christmas Story!"
We went to Mexico City for New Years to visit JP's dad.
JP with the Happy New Year 2014 sign in Mexico City
Jessica's favorite animals at the Chapultapec Zoo - Giraffes!
JP with his favorite, the Rhino!
With the Independence Angel behind us
Vic (dad) and JP going into a below-ground museum in Mexico City
Us with Grandma Conchita and Vic
Thursday, November 21, 2013
Just Say NO!
Yes, I know that phrase usually refers to drugs, but not today! (I mean, we should still say no to drugs though!) :)
In the women's small group that I attend, we are going through a book called "Pleasing God," by Kay Smith. It's a great book! Sometimes though, there are a few things that are more difficult to understand if you didn't grow up in a culture similar to the United States. Yesterday we hit one of those things.
Kay wrote about how spending time with others and listening to them is a good way to show love. BUT, that we need to actually make good on our word when we say we will spend time with others. This sparked a conversation that may leave people from the U.S. with their jaws dropped to the floor. I've lived in Mexico for 8 years, and it even took me by surprise!
I've noticed that somewhat frequently, when you make plans with someone, they end up cancelling minutes before the event, or just not even show up and not cancel. It's one part of life in Queretaro that I'm not sure I'll ever get used to.
Some of the ladies in my group were saying that sometimes you simply can't keep an appointment. (My thoughts were: if you or a family member is sick, there's an emergency, etc.). But, they said you can't keep an appointment because you have a different appointment to go to. Maybe you knew you had to work on Friday night when your friend asked you if you wanted to go to coffee then, but you said yes to coffee, and you have to cancel right before the coffee appointment because you had to work. WHAT?! We're not talking about the boss keeping you after your normal hours on the spur of the moment (that one computes in my brain). This is: You KNOW you have a conflicting event, but you tell a friend that you will go out with her anyway, KNOWING that you won't be able to, and will either call to cancel when your friend is on the way to the café, or just not show up. I kind of figured that this is how things went with appointments sometimes, but I'd never actually heard people come out and say "I already knew that I couldn't go, but I said yes anyway because I didn't want to hurt my friends' feelings by saying no." Several people said exactly that.
I had to put in my 2 cents. I get my feelings hurt WAY more when waiting for an hour at a café by myself and my friend never shows, than I EVER would if she just said, "Oohhh, I actually can't go out on Friday, I have to work, but maybe another day," which would not be problematic, or sad, for me. Me and a few other ladies felt this way, and said so. The general consensus, as per Kay Smith, was that if we CAN'T spend time with a friend at a specific time due to prior commitments, SAY SO. Several ladies said that this was an earth-shattering concept for them, and they weren't sure how they felt about it, but would think about just saying "NO" (or saying "how about another day") if need be.
Every so often I get a huge slap upside the face reminding me that, even though I am officially a Mexican, there will always be parts of me that respond like the Jessica that was born and raised in the United States! Yesterday was definitely one of those slaps! :)
In the women's small group that I attend, we are going through a book called "Pleasing God," by Kay Smith. It's a great book! Sometimes though, there are a few things that are more difficult to understand if you didn't grow up in a culture similar to the United States. Yesterday we hit one of those things.
Kay wrote about how spending time with others and listening to them is a good way to show love. BUT, that we need to actually make good on our word when we say we will spend time with others. This sparked a conversation that may leave people from the U.S. with their jaws dropped to the floor. I've lived in Mexico for 8 years, and it even took me by surprise!
I've noticed that somewhat frequently, when you make plans with someone, they end up cancelling minutes before the event, or just not even show up and not cancel. It's one part of life in Queretaro that I'm not sure I'll ever get used to.
Some of the ladies in my group were saying that sometimes you simply can't keep an appointment. (My thoughts were: if you or a family member is sick, there's an emergency, etc.). But, they said you can't keep an appointment because you have a different appointment to go to. Maybe you knew you had to work on Friday night when your friend asked you if you wanted to go to coffee then, but you said yes to coffee, and you have to cancel right before the coffee appointment because you had to work. WHAT?! We're not talking about the boss keeping you after your normal hours on the spur of the moment (that one computes in my brain). This is: You KNOW you have a conflicting event, but you tell a friend that you will go out with her anyway, KNOWING that you won't be able to, and will either call to cancel when your friend is on the way to the café, or just not show up. I kind of figured that this is how things went with appointments sometimes, but I'd never actually heard people come out and say "I already knew that I couldn't go, but I said yes anyway because I didn't want to hurt my friends' feelings by saying no." Several people said exactly that.
I had to put in my 2 cents. I get my feelings hurt WAY more when waiting for an hour at a café by myself and my friend never shows, than I EVER would if she just said, "Oohhh, I actually can't go out on Friday, I have to work, but maybe another day," which would not be problematic, or sad, for me. Me and a few other ladies felt this way, and said so. The general consensus, as per Kay Smith, was that if we CAN'T spend time with a friend at a specific time due to prior commitments, SAY SO. Several ladies said that this was an earth-shattering concept for them, and they weren't sure how they felt about it, but would think about just saying "NO" (or saying "how about another day") if need be.
Every so often I get a huge slap upside the face reminding me that, even though I am officially a Mexican, there will always be parts of me that respond like the Jessica that was born and raised in the United States! Yesterday was definitely one of those slaps! :)
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